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My mother always taught me: You either like what you get, or you get what you like!

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When you become better at approaching woman, you will see conventional ‘rejections’ get replaced by a more passive lack of interest on the woman’s behalf.

What this simply means is that woman will sub-communicate their lack of interest and you’ll be able to pick up on that sub-communication without having to have her spell it out for you. So… you’ll never actually face rejection.  You will have the ability to pull the plug on the whole interaction before she gets a chance to.

An easy example of this is the ‘Hello’ approach.  Walking up to a female and simply greeting her with a ‘Hello’ can tell you how the interaction is going to play out.  The key is you have to pay particular attention to her sub-communication.

Avoid making these classic mistakes and avoid outright rejection!

Here’s a couple:

1. Simply not paying attention to the situation, thus causing you to do something stupid.

You may think it’s cool to walk up to a woman and drape your arm around her and say, “Hey gorgeous, lets see if there’s more than meets they eye”…… while she’s on the phone.

Or follow a woman around all night, leering at her constantly, then deciding to muster up the courage to approach her…while she’s dancing with another guy.

I got news for you buddy, you deserve to be rejected.

2.  Not knowing when to quit.

Compliment her once.  Period.  Each compliment you give her you lower your own value.  Thus making it easier for her to reject you.  Work at establishing equality, not her superiority.

3. Making a woman question you because of your body language.

If you look like shit and act in congruence with your appearance.  REJECTION.

4. Failing to understand a woman’s body language and sub-communication.

When talking to a woman you will know if she’s receptive to talking to you.  Look out for negative body language.  If you don’t know what that is… you’ve gotta a LOT to work to do.  Fret not, I will be blogging about various examples of negative body language soon.

Minimize your mistakes and you’ll reduce you’re rates of failure.

One Physically based and the other based on Personality!

Typically, men are more attracted to physical traits, while women find themselves more attracted to PERSONALITY traits.

So guys…Understand that it’s not necessarily about the physical traits of your body, but more about the way you present yourself.    It’s not as much his voice as the way a man uses it. Do physical looks, money, fame, power, height, age, etc. factor in? YES. HOWEVER, its not as important as you think they are.

If you’re tall, handsome, rich, and famous…cool. You’ll probably have an easier time
attracting women. But take a good look around…these factors can open the doors for guys, but doesn’t
guarantee that the woman will stick around. There are a LOT of rich, famous, powerful men who still suck when it comes to women.  This often has to do with the fact that they’re pussies.

Convey these characteristics and trigger her attraction switches:

1. Good Status
2. Confidence
3. Smile/Positive Nature
4. Humour
5. Well Groomed
6. Rapport

Its been a long road, and with it there’s been many highs fraught with its occasional lows.  Nonetheless, I must bid farewell to all you Celebutards, Coke-Hogans and cookie cutter, bar mopping delusional ho’s. lol On a more serious note, I’m officially retiring from active duty in the field.   I’ve finally found the girl that takes my breath away.

Even though my personal situation has changed, my mission remains the same.  I will remain committed to helping all those who are confident and willing enough to reach out and seek my help.  Feel free to contact me with any questions or simply share your thoughts. bond@casualbond.com

Photography: Steve Carty  www.stevecarty.com

This game was close.  However, Drago relied on physical presence where Eyal relied on different elements that are required in having great game.  Eyal was full of Moxy, intelligence and charm.

Dating 101: The Truth About Why Men Cheat

Counselor M. Gary Neuman surveyed 200 cheating and non-cheating husbands to get at the real reasons behind men’s infidelity.

What makes Men Cheat?

Marriage counselor M. Gary Neuman dug through past research on male infidelity and found that most answers came from the wife’s point of view. “Wouldn’t it make more sense to ask the guys?” he thought. So for his new book, “The Truth About Cheating,” Neuman surveyed 200 cheating and non-cheating husbands to get at the real reasons behind men’s infidelity — including what cheating men say could have prevented them from straying. Here, some of his findings:

48% of men rated emotional dissatisfaction as the primary reason they cheated.

So much for the myth that for men, cheating is all about physical intimacy: Only 8 percent of men said that physical dissatisfaction was the main factor in their infidelity. “Our culture tells us that all men need to be happy is to have physical intimacy with someone,” Neuman says. “But men are emotionally driven beings too. They want their wives to show them that they’re appreciated, and they want women to understand how hard they’re trying to get things right.” The problem is that men are less likely than women to express these feelings, so you won’t always know when your guy is in need of a little affirmation. “Most men consider it unmanly to ask for a pat on the back, which is why their emotional needs are often overlooked,” Neuman says. “But you can create a marital culture of appreciation and thoughtfulness — and once you set the tone, he’s likely to match it.”

66% of cheating men report feeling guilt during the affair.

The implications are a little scary: It isn’t just uncaring jerks who cheat. In fact, 68 percent of cheaters never dreamed they’d be unfaithful, and almost all of them wished they hadn’t done it, Neuman says. Clearly, guilt isn’t enough to stop a man from cheating. “Men are good at compartmentalizing feelings,” Neuman explains. “They can hold on to their emotions and deal with them later.” So even if your partner swears he would never cheat, don’t assume it can’t happen. It’s important for both of you to take steps toward creating the relationship you want.

77% of cheating men have a good friend who cheated.

Hanging around friends who stray makes cheating seem normal and legitimizes it as a possibility. The message he’s subconsciously telling himself: “My friend is a good guy who happens to be cheating on his wife. I guess even the best of us do it.” You can’t simply ban your husband from hanging out with Mr. Wandering Eyes, Neuman says, but you can request that they spend their time together in an environment that offers less temptation, like at a sporting event or a restaurant for lunch rather than at a bar or club. Another strategy: Build your social circle around happily married couples that share your values — it’ll create an environment that supports marriage.

40% of cheating men met the other woman at work.

“Oftentimes the woman he cheats with at the office is someone who praises him, looks up to him, and compliments his efforts,” Neuman says. “That’s another reason why it’s so critical that he feel valued at home.” Luckily, there’s a clear warning sign that your husband is getting a little too cozy with a colleague: If he praises or mentions the name of a female coworker more than he would a male counterpart, your antennae should go up — and it’s time for the two of you to set boundaries about what is and isn’t okay at work, Neuman says. Is it acceptable for him to work late if it’s only him and her? Can they travel together to conferences? Have dinners out to discuss a project? Ask him what he’d feel comfortable with you doing with a male colleague.

Only 12% of cheating men said their mistress was more physically attractive than their wife.

In other words, a man doesn’t stray because he thinks he’ll get lucky with a better-looking body.

In most cases, he’s cheating to fill an emotional void.

In most cases, he’s cheating to fill an emotional void,” Neuman says. “He feels a connection with the other woman, and physical intimacy comes along for the ride.” If you’re worried about infidelity, focus on making your relationship more loving and connected, not on getting your body just right or mastering how to please him physically. (But know that physical intimacy does matter — it’s one of the key ways your guy expresses his love and feels close to you, so be sure to keep it a priority.)

Only 6% of cheating men had physical intimacy with a woman after meeting her that same day or night.

Actually, 73 percent of men got to know the other woman for more than a month before they cheated. This means that you may have time to see the warning signs before infidelity occurs — you might even see it coming before he does. Keep an eye out for these common signals: He spends more time away from home, stops asking for physical intimacy, picks fights more frequently, or avoids your calls. Your gut reaction may be to confront him, but most men will deny even thinking about cheating, especially if nothing physical has occurred yet. Instead, Neuman suggests, take charge of what you can control — your own behavior — and take the lead in bringing your relationship to a better place. Don’t hesitate to show your appreciation for him, prioritize time together, and initiate affection more. Give him a reason to keep you at the front of his mind, Neuman says. And be open about how you feel about what’s going on between the two of you (again, without mentioning any third parties). Try “I think we’ve started to lose something important in our relationship, and I don’t want it to disappear.” In the meantime, commit to keeping tabs on your relationship and doing what it takes to keep it working for you.

[Source: Nicole Yorio from Redbook]

Congratulations Barack!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Now get to work brother!  There’s lots to be done.

P.S.  NO MORE RACE CARDS!!!! lol.

Well…. that all depends on what Anti-Establishment means to you?  To me, it means someone who opposes the standards and perceptions set by societies collective conscience.  In layman’s terms,  someone who is adverse to ‘The Man’.  However, I’m going to try my best to make sure this post doesn’t sound like something from 1970’s Blaxploitation film.

Barack Obama IS Anti-Establishment. His continuing success and spotlight has effectively shattered the established perceptions of the ‘Black Man.’  As a result of this, many people within our society have been left wondering what ever happened to stereotype that they had become so accustomed to.  They want to know what happened to the platinum tooth wearing, slam-dunking, big rimming, wide receiving, corn-rowing, womanizing, over gesticulating, booty-slapping, hip hopping, weed smoking, plea bargaining, ebonic talking, joke making, underachieving, minimum wage earning, loud dressing son-of-a-husband-less bitch they have grown to hate and at the same time, love.

Fret not my bigot minded friends, he still exists, and feel free to use him as a vital tool in your attempts to overcome your inferiority complex.  However, be fore-warned. There are always two sides to a coin, and for too long the majority of society has only seen one side thanks to our media.  A media so powerful that a intelligent black man can often be reduced to…. his widely accepted stereotype.  Nonetheless, enough about me. lol  The time has come for us to see the other side of the coin.  The side where the Barack Obama’s of the world exist.  Finally, the coin has been tossed….and guess what, its landed on ‘Heads’.  Head of the pack, by using his head to become the Head of State….hopefully.

Nevertheless, whether Barack Obama wins or loses his bid for President.  He will still receive a standing ovation from yours truly.  A guy who yearns to be just as Anti-Establishment as he is.

For a long time the field of seduction has been dominated by the guys that run ‘Love Systems’ (formerly known as the Mystery Method).  However, due to recent problems within the structure of their company, out of control egos and a theory that lacks a personal touch (depending on the teacher).

With the current make-up of today’s market, ‘The Art of Charm’ has an opportunity to provide stable and effective competition. Recent conversations with Benjamin Klein and Joshua Pellicier from ‘The Art of Charm’ have revealed many similarities in our ideologies. This discovery has lead me to ask this very important question; What would happen if ‘Casual Bond’ and ‘The Art of Charm’ were to join forces?

Congratulations!

Why you ask?

Well… it’s quite simple. You’ve just taken the first essential step towards a very positive and rewarding transformation.

By visiting this site, you’ve allowed yourself to gain access to a whole new world of possibilities.

You see, since 1999, ‘Casual Bond’ has been my handle and an all-encompassing way of life. The moniker was inspired by one of the most influential people in my life, James Bond. That’s right, Agent 007! And yes, I’m fully aware of the fact that he’s a fictional character.

Nevertheless, Sir Ian Fleming’s creation has had a profound impact on me.  In my eyes James Bond represents everything a man should aspire to be. He is the personification of charm, intelligence and toughness all wrapped up into one impeccable package. With all these traits, it was no mystery why he never failed to complete the mission while simultaneously ‘getting the girl’.

James Bond exemplifies the peak of male performance; the definition of a renaissance man, the physical abilities of a professional athlete and all mental faculties to take on an evil scientist or dictator. He could ski down a mountain, play a game of chess and fly a helicopter all in the same hour!

While attempting to model the spirit and essence of Commander Bond, I faced many early mistakes and failures. In the process however, I did grow and mature into a person who now has the kind of enviable life most men will never have the pleasure of experiencing. I’m not saying that I am Wilt Chamberlain, Gene Simmons or Scott Baio, however what I am saying is that I have learned a lot about females, male behavior and more importantly – Myself.

My theory is this; men desperately need to start internalizing their efforts when it comes to succeeding in the game of seduction and life in general. You have to make sure your house is in order before you start criticizing a female for not giving you the time of day. Make the proper changes on the inside, and the outside will take care of itself.  Stay tuned, for I will be exploring these concepts more thoroughly in my upcoming publication “Its not her, Its You”.

Nonetheless, this brings us to the purpose of ‘Casual Bond.com’! If you’re familiar with the world of seduction, names like David DeAngelo, Mystery, Savoy and Ross Jeffries should come to mind. I respect all these men immensely and my theories supplement and build upon the fantastic foundations they have all laid.

My focus however is to make better men, as opposed to primarily teaching them routines and tricks that they can use to seduce women. My aim is not only to teach and reward you, but to also reward the various women you will meet throughout your lifetime.

C.Bond